lovemyhouse's blog: I can see clearly now, the rain is gone...

Posted on Aug 25, 2013 9:57 PM

It’s baaaaaaaaack.  After almost exactly two months away, Blondy decides to return to the house.  Oh, uccckkkkyyyy.  Well, I don’t suppose she really wants to, but her enablers gave up their apartment and each moved in with relatives.  Okay, ya have to be a big, grown-up girl.  You made the deal, she gets two move-backs and it keeps your sister happy.  Suck it up, then.  :-p  She does have additional conditions.  No leaving the house in the middle of the night—she is either here all night or is gone all night, boy-child’s sleep and eating schedules stay the same, she buys ALL her own food.  Condiments, flour, cooking oil, the works.  So the second night she is here, she goes to her friend KK’s and is gone all night, comes back around 12:00noon.  Third night she is here, she wants to go out again, but changes her mind for some reason.  Earlier today (fourth day back), she comes to me and says she is leaving for her friend Lori’s around 2:00.  Doesn’t ask me squat, just says she’s going.  Um, so you are taking the boy?  Uhhhh…no.  Welp, I keep him from 10:00pm to 6:00am, and that is only because his crib is in my room.  Otherwise, you are here and he is all yours.  She stomps off.  I fall asleep with boy-child this evening.  Wake up around 9:00pm when the dogs sound off at sister’s return from errands. Blondy gets pissy when she finds out that sister and I have lunch plans for tomorrow, leaving at 11:00.  THAT’S when I discover Blondy still plans to go to her friend’s because “you said it was okay as long as it was after 10:00”.  Well just when did you think you could come waltzing back in here tomorrow, you skanky little drunken slut?!?  (pant, pant, pant…okay, relax from feral crouch and uncurl hands from claw position).  Nice creative reinterpretation, there. GRRRRRR. 

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Think I made it clear this time.  Did it calmly and rationally, with no drama or finger-pointing.  (Even sister said so—oooh, I was proud of me!)  Had this boy for two months straight 24/7 and happy to do it.  But if you are here, then he is your child and your responsibility every waking minute of the day.  Maybe if I continually reinforce the “you don’t git to party all the time and live HERE, little girl” message she will move out again.  Pleeeeeeeese!  I think I would even pay her a little pocket money if she left again.

Social Security has reversed the disability decision and I will start receiving benefits in September.  Will be BigBigBIG load off me and sister.  With the possibility of actually having a dollar or two for mulch and soil, I am becoming excited about the yard again.  Been tough to find enthusiasm for much the last few weeks. 

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New day.  Well.  How did we know this.  Blondy told sister she was going to the friend’s, but would be back last night.  Yeah, right.  Nearly 2:00pm and she still isn’t here.  I am thinking she might not come in until at least tomorrow just so she can feel she is proving a point.  News for her.  And sister is backing me up.  Told sister I would give her $50 a month to give to Blondy for condoms and such if she left.  Can we say “bribery” girls and boys?  Sister is gone for afternoon so if slutty one does come in in the meantime, I get to ‘handle’ her.

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Moved a Victorian Gift daylily (unregistered) to where it will get more sun and put a June hosta from a container in its place.  Watered a little.  Nice to see new foliage coming up after July and August’s drought.  The unexpected August rain started regrowth a little early.  Plus, I suspended my benign neglect policy and have been hand watering.  Not enough to keep everything lush, but enough to keep much from dying out that would have been lost otherwise.
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New day.  Well.  Well, well.  And, well.  Haven’t seen or heard from Blondy since she took off for her friend’s two nights back.  Sister tells me this morning that Blondy posted on her Facebook page she starts waitressing in a gentleman’s club tonight.  I will sincerely say good for her, it is honest work and it’s a job.  Then add, frankly, that is about the only kind of place she could get a job given her lack of intelligence, experience, and education; extraordinarily promiscuous behavior; and extreme laziness.  But I am not prejudiced, or anything like that…

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Several next New days.  So I got to tell Blondy she doesn’t live here any more!  Yea!!!! 

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AND I didn’t even have to come across with any money!  She was gone for three days straight with no word of any kind.  Nope, you don’t get to do that.  And I find out on top of her drinking she is now taking cocaine.  Could tell there was some kind of drug, just didn’t know what…sigh…jail or dead before she is 25…

So I am thinking of what needs to be done should I have to get custody of boy-child.  Already have forms printed out for her and sister to go get notarized for medical power of attorney and death/disability guardianship.  But I am thinking I might need to protect him from his mama.  She surely doesn’t want him burdening her lifestyle, I just have concerns she will try to use him as a lever with us, or sell him to finance her drug habit.  Wouldn’t be the first time for either in this family (my youngest sister comes immediately to mind).  There would be nothing I could do in time to stop her taking him if I don’t move on it.  He is going to be ‘messed up’ because of her absence, but, aren’t we all screwed up in some form or fashion?  All I can do is minimize it as much as possible and teach him how to adapt.

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Weird how people change over the years.  When we were young women, my sister was always the baby-making, gotta have kids around, patience of Job with babies kind of person.  I was always the W.C. Fields type.  Welllll, maybe not quite that bad, but close if the proximity lasted any length of time.  Now, she is the one who is impatient and wants to steer clear and I am the one with the patience—at least with boy-child.  Girl-child is another story.  I want her returned for a refund.

I have been so blessed with help from people here.  Life is hopeful again and these kind, generous souls have certainly been the currents supporting my rise in spirits.  Going to bed with thoughts of green, growing things again instead of drowning in dank, dark pond scum.  I be happy, happy.

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