Answer: I recommend cutting asparagus ferns before the fruits pop open to distribute their seed so you don't have to deal with seedling that might compete with the variety you planted. Most people grow purely male plants to avoid this situation. Also, male plants produce larger crops (25-30% more) than females, which tend to put their energy into producing seed. There are a couple other possibilities of why the stalks are spindly: if you harvested most of the stalks the first year after planting, not enough ferns were allowed to grow to replenish the crowns to compensate for the heavy harvest. Or, growing conditions last year weren't conducive to the health of the crowns: lots of weed competition, not enough moisture, poor soil fertility, etc.
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