Answer: You have listed a difficult set of conditions to meet. Although there are columnar, tall forms of arborvitae that are partly shade tolerant, they would need more sun to do well over time. Hemlocks are shade tolerant but no longer recommended due to probelms with the adelgid pest. There are tall narrow junipers, but they require full sun and a well drained soil. While yews will tolerate some shade, they tend to grow in a rounded shape overall rather than upright. Depending on the height required, you might find that the large catawba rhododendrons will do the job.
Alternatively, you might consider planting something closer to the house so that less plant height is required to block the view. Although evergreens can block some amount of sound, they are not totally effective. You might also consider a fence and plant a vine such as English ivy or fall blooming clematis to soften the look of it. These are both shade tolerant and easy to grow.
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