Answer: There are many many types and varieties of old fashioned roses and unfortunately, based on your description, I couldn't begin to tell you which specific one you seek. Many of them are pink and fragrant and many of them are "cabbage" shaped! However, there are a number of specialty firms dealing in old roses and I feel certain one of them will be able to help you. Here are three with web sites and photos to get you started:
<a href="http://www.avagara.com/gardHOGR/">Heirloom Old Garden Roses</a>
<a href="http://www.vintagegardens.com/index.htm">Vintage Gardens Antique Roses</a>
<a href="http://www.roseraie.com/">Roseraie at Bayfields</a>
If you could find an actual plant in your family's old locale, you could propagate it by taking cuttings, layering or even (with permission of course) transplanting either suckers or an entire plant. This would really be the most certain way of obtaining the same rose. Good luck with your search!
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