I can answer part of your question (I hope). The white coating looks like Powdery Mildew. It's relatively easy to combat. You can simply spray it off with a hose or a spray bottle or you could use something stronger. If you search this forum for Powdery Mildew (PM) you should find many options and opinions. Some of my roses get it annually - it's ugly but it doesn't kill them.
Part 2 : what's eating the buds - I don't know but there are many here, including some in your area of the country that will probably be able to give you ideas! Best of luck to you