Thank you all very much for the kindness. I didnt want to write a large post the first time rambling on about all of the different ways i have tried to combat this.
Bill i didnt explain it correctly at first, i have aspergers and sometimes i believe i am explaining things better than what i am. I started low and slow with nothing but dirt and water and seed. As things failed i made changes with new startups.
Weedwhacker
i added some soil acidifier because my ph was over 8 and got it down to 7 even. i have been running an experiment trying to verify any data possible. With multiple plants in multiple locations and in buckets. I even had the same issue indoor when i started with my basil and cabbage.
Henderman i will check the temps and log for a few days. also, i dont like using any chemicals that harm us or them but have tried for months to resolve this, it was not out of laziness but desperation. what do you use to keep the cutworms and bad bugs away? i did verify that no bees were active and kept it off of the flowers of the plants. in fact it wasnt until after i sprayed that i have seen my first honeybee back.
Sally
so far the cucs have gotten hard and almost dry and died with little prickles. i have watered some heaver and some lighter to determine if over/under watering was cause to no avail.
gardenfish
i had fungus gnats which is why i started using the neem oil and am using bti on some of them. the potassium i really just use on my collards as it stopped the cabbage worms from eating it. i am open to using anything safe and effective. i love my garden and am constantly walking and looking and recording. what local extension office?
Thank you all again for the kindness and the information and feedback, it is greatly appreciated.