Daylilies forum: The Band Played On

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Name: Karen
Minnesota (Zone 4a)
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Cookies4kids
Apr 16, 2015 7:29 PM CST
I was wondering if anyone has done any crosses using Stamile's flower, The Band Played On??? It was named for my grandson, Erik, and I was just curious to find out.
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Name: Jimi
Jacksonville, FL (Zone 9a)
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Jimiimijz
Apr 17, 2015 4:23 AM CST
I have not personally but there are 7 child plants listed in the daylily database. Now I'm curious as to the story behind the naming. Do tell!

Daylily (Hemerocallis 'The Band Played On')
Name: Vickie
Elberfeld, Indiana, USA (Zone 6b)
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blue23rose
Apr 18, 2015 4:49 AM CST
The Band Played On is a beautiful daylily and it sure has some impressive kids. You've got my curiosity too about why it was named for your grandson! Please, do tell Smiling
Vickie
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Name: Karen
Minnesota (Zone 4a)
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Cookies4kids
Apr 18, 2015 6:20 AM CST
Erik was the only child of our youngest daughter, and he died in a senseless car crash at the age of 16. The driver of that car did not receive a scratch, but Erik was instantly crushed to death. Our only consolation was that he never suffered.
I know that when these things happen, people always say "he was a wonderful kid". Well, let me tell you with no reservations, that he really was. He loved music, building things, and being nice to everyone he came in contact with. He had been hired for the coming summer by the vocational school to help build homes because he was so good at it. He was an "adopted" grandson to every person on his paper route, and they all had a funny story to tell about him. He loved playing his trumpet in the Marching and Pep band, and never missed a practice. You can see where this is going!!!
When he died, the local and city newspapers all did stories about him and they were all titled The Band Played On. The high school band played all his favorite songs at the funeral, and his trumpet sat on his empty chair.
Erik had this thing about dragonflies, so of course our daughter received all sorts of them in his memory. I in turn, wanted to do something for him that would not end up tucked away in a drawer and forgotten. For a year, I kept trying to come up with something but nothing clicked until I saw his friends laying flowers at the crash site on the first anniversary. I loved daylilies and what if I could get one named after him that would be around forever.
The person that jumped to mind was Pat Stamile because his were my favorites, but how do you approach such a person. For a week, I tossed it over and over in my mind feeling sure that I was a foolish person to think he would do such a thing. I finally sent an email to him telling Erik's story, my hands shaking so badly I could hardly type, knowing that I would never get a reply. Three hours later, the reply came through. He and his wife had a son, killed in a car accident at sixteen. He would be honored to name a flower after my Erik. Mr. Stamile is known for the bands of color in his flowers, so there was no question that Eriks flower would be called The Band Played On as it will for many years to come.
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Name: Debra
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lovemyhouse
Apr 18, 2015 7:32 AM CST
That story is the most profoundly moving that I have heard in some time.
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Name: Betty
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daylilydreams
Apr 18, 2015 7:49 AM CST
Karen, my heart goes out to you and your family. Group hug Group hug Group hug What a wonderful way honor your grandson by making the request of a well know hybridizer, the entire story is very moving.
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Name: Ashton & Terry
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kidfishing
Apr 18, 2015 10:41 AM CST
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I just got The Band Played On this morning.
Great to know what's behind the name.
Kidfishing
Name: Vickie
Elberfeld, Indiana, USA (Zone 6b)
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blue23rose
Apr 18, 2015 10:48 AM CST
I don't mind telling you that I have tears in my eyes. What a wonderful tribute to your grandson and a beautiful gesture on Pat Stamile's part. The fact that you felt compelled to contact Pat was meant to be.
Vickie
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Name: Karen
Minnesota (Zone 4a)
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Cookies4kids
Apr 18, 2015 1:02 PM CST
Thanks for all the nice comments. It was nice to have the opportunity to talk about it since the anniversary is coming soon. It is a great group of people here on ATP!!!
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Name: Lisa Klette
Dayton, KY (Zone 6a)
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Lilydaydreamer
Apr 18, 2015 7:42 PM CST
Now that I know this story, I must get this Daylily! Thank you for sharing him with us.

Lisa
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Name: Karen
Minnesota (Zone 4a)
Region: Minnesota Garden Art Garden Ideas: Level 2 Celebrating Gardening: 2015
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Cookies4kids
Apr 19, 2015 10:15 AM CST
I know you will enjoy the plant, Lisa.
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Name: Mike
Hazel Crest, IL (Zone 5b)
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Hazelcrestmikeb
Apr 20, 2015 8:17 AM CST
Karen, thanks for sharing Erik's story with us. That's a very pretty daylily. I have always admired it.
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Name: Kabby
Lowndesboro, AL (Zone 8a)
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Kabby
Apr 21, 2015 5:35 PM CST
Crying Group hug Thanks for sharing Erik's story and I appreciate Pat Stamile's empathy.
Name: Teresa
South central KY (Zone 6b)
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bluegrassmom
Apr 28, 2015 7:07 PM CST
Karen, thanks for sharing. You were so blessed to have such a wonderful grandson! Words are never enough but I am sorry for your loss.
Name: Karen
Minnesota (Zone 4a)
Region: Minnesota Garden Art Garden Ideas: Level 2 Celebrating Gardening: 2015
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Cookies4kids
Apr 28, 2015 7:21 PM CST
Thanks for your kind words, Teresa.
Happiness is doing for those who cannot do for themselves.
Name: Hilary Picton
Dousland, Devon UK (Zone 9a)
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Halfprice
Apr 29, 2015 3:45 AM CST
What a moving story, I am so sorry you lost such an amazing grandson but thrilled that you have such a beautiful daylily named for him. It would be wonderful if everyone who has this plant could know the story behind it.
Name: Karen
Minnesota (Zone 4a)
Region: Minnesota Garden Art Garden Ideas: Level 2 Celebrating Gardening: 2015
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Cookies4kids
Apr 29, 2015 4:39 AM CST
Thanks, Hilary. Your avatar is really stunning. What is that??
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Name: Hilary Picton
Dousland, Devon UK (Zone 9a)
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Halfprice
Apr 29, 2015 3:54 PM CST
Thanks Karen it's a seedling Green Tarantula x Frilly Bliss I bought the seeds on Lily Auction and these were the first blooms last year. I am waiting to see what the bud count is this year and if it reblooms. I have named it Joan Clements after my Mum

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