You guys are too funny!
When my ex and I got divorced (on our 18th anniversary) we already owned the house next door, I said to him at the time, "We don't have to hate each other just because we can't figure out how to love each other anymore...and the best thing for our son (who was 12 at the time) is to be close to each other." It was rough for the first few years I'll admit, but I set 3 goals for myself...1) I was not going to stoop to his level, 2) I was going to set a good example for our son, and 3) when it was all said and done I was going to be able to look at myself in a mirror. Mission Accomplished!
Nowadays we are pretty good friends. He takes care of my Honey-Do list and I feed him...a lot! We must have dinner together 4 or 5 nights a week! We spend holidays together, he brings me with him to his family's gatherings...etc.
Actually we get along better now than before and he certainly spends more time with me now than he did while we were married....but the best part of all is that now when he's being a jerk---I can just send him home!
I would recommend married people give it a try....it makes life so much easier!
Back to plants...
No, Ken, I'm not going to just let the stump rot...that's just an invitation to the termites! Like serving up a buffet for them! The boys have been running a small stump grinder on it when they have to rent one for a job...that's why I had to move all the pavers. At this rate it's gonna take half a lifetime before it's gone...And its not quite as close as it looks...but yes, it's close.
(You can see the patio I've started with the pavers!)
Ursula, I went to that website, and put in the grex (whatever that is) that you suggested, and I found pages of information I couldn't make heads nor tails out of...and I plinked around a while before giving up and figured I didn't need to know a bit of the information that I couldn't even understand!