Name: Marilyn, aka "Poly" South San Francisco Bay Area (Zone 9b) "The mountains are calling..."
'Beautiful Edgings' mostly stands up for me, but a big plus in its favor is that it has rust resistance (ATP score 1.3). 'Newberry White Dove' always does. If you like somewhat spidery daylilies, 'Gadsden Icicle' has no problems standing upright, either.
Sadly, I agree on 'Jersey Spider'. I bought it years ago because DH was born and raised in New Jersey - but while it has beautiful flowers, the scapes are very weak, and the whole clump has to be supported when in bloom.
Evaluating an iris seedling, hopefully for rebloom