Kadie, I had to remove my papaya last winter as it got too tall and fell over. So I don't have a picture to show you. But the simple answer is to look for both stamens and pistils. The flowers are pretty big, so it's fairly obvious if you have a complete flower. The stamens are the long, filament like things coming from the center of the flower and the pistil is the part with the ovary that will receive pollen.
