Well Mike, my mom always rooted hibiscus cuttings in a glass jar of water on the windowsill. I did too. Or you can take tip cuttings & stick them in moist pearlite. Or you can stick them in sand. I've never used rooting hormones on hibiscus. Never had the need with hibiscus.
I know you're frustrated. It seems so simple & you're so good with plants. We all have our black thumb with something. Mine is mondo grass -- it hates me. Sounds ridiculous doesn't it? I can hear people laughing but I swear mondo grass hates me. I've tried everything & it just sits there, not dying, not growing, just existing.