Sue, I have similar problems, we live in a small town and that was why I ordered from the catalogs. 3 years ago I found a daylily grower in another town, BX Creek Daylilies, check out the website, it's a long drive, over 3 hours there and back but at least I know I will get the right daylilies. It's also a nice outing, we enjoy visiting with the growers, Gail and Allen Morgan, their gardens are lovely.
Most of the daylilies from the catalogs are tissue culture and I think that's why they mess up so often, they grow millions of plants that way.
We had frost last night, it was 31 when I got up this morning, I haven't looked at the plants yet.