LOL this is a strange situation indeed....I'll try to clear it up....
The back fence is a solid fence...but he is the "good neighbor" ...he doesn't care if I plant against the fence.
The "right" side is a "good neighbor" fence...one board alternating on each side of the main beam and there is an opening for stuff to pass through...
She puts "something" right along the fence and there is still about 8-10 inches of grass between the fence and the line. I didn't mind her coming over to mow until she started the "don't touch" stuff. I really don't want to start an all out "war"... just really disappointed that she basically has stopped me from having the yard I want....even if she technically "gave away" that foot, I still can't plant flowers without them growing over toward her fence unless I make some kind of barrier.
I admit that there very well could be another problem with the butterfly bush...but 2 years ago it was big, beautiful and bushy and attracted all kinds of butterflies, bugs etc. And yes...it did go quite a bit over onto her property (it was planted before she moved in and the previous owner really liked it and the butterflies etc so it was not a problem then). Then she build her fence last summer, started putting whatever she puts along the fence and my bush started dying back from that side and I ended up with only 2-3 scraggly branches with hardly any blooms...
Hence the reason to put another fence so I don't have to worry about "her" no-touch fetish...
Good point about double fencing but the area I live in doesn't seem to care much about anything :P
I'm probably just being petty about this but I'm really at a loss as to how to handle this...