Blog post: Black Diamonds: How moving, true & beautiful

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Name: Ann ~Heat zn 9, Sunset
North Fl. (Zone 8b)
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flaflwrgrl
Sep 17, 2013 11:29 AM CST
Group hug Group hug MARY Group hug Group hug
I am a strong believer in the simple fact is that what matters in this life is how we treat others. I think that's what living is all about. Not what I've done in my life but how I've treated others.
~~ Sharon Brown ~~



Name: Mary
My little patch of paradise (Zone 7b)
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fiwit
Sep 17, 2013 1:17 PM CST
Group hug Group hug Group hug
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I'm going to retire and live off of my savings. Not sure what I'll do that second week.
My yard marches to the beat of a bohemian drummer...
Name: Vicki
North Carolina
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vic
Sep 17, 2013 1:38 PM CST
Oh Mary Crying Crying Group hug Group hug Group hug
Name: Mary
My little patch of paradise (Zone 7b)
Gardening dilettante, that's me!
Plays in the sandbox Native Plants and Wildflowers Butterflies Dog Lover Daylilies The WITWIT Badge
Lover of wildlife (Black bear badge) Bluebonnets Birds Region: Georgia Composter Garden Ideas: Master Level
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fiwit
Sep 17, 2013 1:55 PM CST
Thanks, Vic Group hug

I'm just glad I'm finally finding words for it... maybe in another couple days I'll be able to cry.
Northwest Georgia Daylily Society
I'm going to retire and live off of my savings. Not sure what I'll do that second week.
My yard marches to the beat of a bohemian drummer...
Name: Vicki
North Carolina
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vic
Sep 17, 2013 2:05 PM CST
In the mean time, I'll cry for you Group hug Group hug

I'm so very very sorry Crying
Name: Ann ~Heat zn 9, Sunset
North Fl. (Zone 8b)
Garden Sages Native Plants and Wildflowers Xeriscape Organic Gardener I was one of the first 300 contributors to the plant database! Garden Ideas: Master Level
Butterflies Charter ATP Member Plant Identifier Region: Florida Dog Lover Birds
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flaflwrgrl
Sep 17, 2013 2:14 PM CST
I'll join Vic in crying for you too until you can do it yourself. Crying Crying Crying
I am a strong believer in the simple fact is that what matters in this life is how we treat others. I think that's what living is all about. Not what I've done in my life but how I've treated others.
~~ Sharon Brown ~~



Name: Mary
My little patch of paradise (Zone 7b)
Gardening dilettante, that's me!
Plays in the sandbox Native Plants and Wildflowers Butterflies Dog Lover Daylilies The WITWIT Badge
Lover of wildlife (Black bear badge) Bluebonnets Birds Region: Georgia Composter Garden Ideas: Master Level
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fiwit
Sep 17, 2013 2:28 PM CST
Thanks for understanding, ladies... somewhere in my archives, I have a poem that starts out "sometimes it hurts too much to cry, and emotions run too deep to get beneath them."



That first poem in the post encompasses my belief that she was in more pain than she let me know, for longer than she let me know, because she didn't want to leave me. I believe that she felt like she was letting me down if she left, or at least if she left before Nov (Nov would have been 9 years since she moved in with me). It also shares one of my favorite memories of her -- about 4-6 weeks after she moved in with me, I went home to spend New Year's with my dad (this was the year after Mom died). I was gone just under a week, I think. Came back and went to get the dogs.

Casey was in the livingroom at the dog-sitters. I was in the kitchen, talking to Dee, and Jon was standing right there. Casey had always avoided Jon (she was never comfortable around men, and it was only in the last couple years that she stopped barking at Jon). She walked past him, close enough to touch, because he was between us and she wanted to be with me. Before that day, she had never willingly been in the same room with him. Lovey dubby Lovey dubby Lovey dubby
Northwest Georgia Daylily Society
I'm going to retire and live off of my savings. Not sure what I'll do that second week.
My yard marches to the beat of a bohemian drummer...
Name: Vicki
North Carolina
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vic
Sep 17, 2013 4:15 PM CST
I have had pets all my life and as a result have had to let too many go which we're never ready to do.

It's so painful and I wish I could make that go away for you.
Name: Ann ~Heat zn 9, Sunset
North Fl. (Zone 8b)
Garden Sages Native Plants and Wildflowers Xeriscape Organic Gardener I was one of the first 300 contributors to the plant database! Garden Ideas: Master Level
Butterflies Charter ATP Member Plant Identifier Region: Florida Dog Lover Birds
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flaflwrgrl
Sep 17, 2013 5:06 PM CST
There are certain things in this world we have to do ourselves. We have to come into this world by ourselves. We die by ourselves. (Meaning no one comes with us). And we have to get through the grieving by ourselves. No one else can speed these things along. They are things we have to do in our own time -- alone. And none of these things are accomplished easily.
I am a strong believer in the simple fact is that what matters in this life is how we treat others. I think that's what living is all about. Not what I've done in my life but how I've treated others.
~~ Sharon Brown ~~



Name: Vicki
North Carolina
Forum moderator Charter ATP Member I helped beta test the Garden Planting Calendar I was one of the first 300 contributors to the plant database! I sent a postcard to Randy! Region: United States of America
Purslane Garden Art Garden Ideas: Master Level Region: North Carolina Celebrating Gardening: 2015
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vic
Sep 17, 2013 5:43 PM CST
So sad and so true Lovey dubby

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