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Jun 8, 2024 5:24 AM CST
Name: Diana
Southeast Missouri (Zone 6a)
Cat Lover Vegetable Grower Enjoys or suffers hot summers Plant Lover: Loves 'em all! Region: Missouri Irises
Canning and food preservation Hibiscus Dog Lover Daylilies Enjoys or suffers cold winters
I agree as well.
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Jun 8, 2024 8:34 AM CST
Name: Derylin
Louisville ,Kentucky (Zone 6b)
Amaryllis Vegetable Grower Plant Lover: Loves 'em all! Peonies Irises Houseplants
Hibiscus Herbs Dog Lover Daylilies Cat Lover Region: Kentucky
Yes,I hope so,too Daisy.
I know it must be hard having your own issues and taking care of your husband with his issues as well.
Thought and prayers for you both.
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Jun 8, 2024 3:28 PM CST
Name: Daisy
close to Baltimore, MD (Zone 7a)
Amaryllis Plant and/or Seed Trader Region: Maryland Peonies Organic Gardener Irises
Herbs Hellebores Growing under artificial light Container Gardener Cat Lover Garden Photography
Yes, it's just one appointment after another for the past 6 months.

For this most recent right heart catheterization, the doc, less than 48 hours before the procedure, indicated I would need someone to drive me home from the procedure. Why? He was saying there would be no sedation, and I recall driving home all the way from D.C. to Baltimore after my first one back in 2011, even though they used some mild sedation.

So, after his call, I went back to the written instructions given me in advance of the procedure. It did not say I would need to have someone DRIVE ME home. It said I would need somone to ACCOMPANY ME home. So I called the doc's office and asked if I could have my "non-driving" husband accompany me. The assistant conferred with someone else, and then responded that yes, that would be okay. About 10 minutes later, the doc's main assistant called me back and I repeated the question to her, just to be sure. And she said it wasn't okay, and why hadn't I used the phrase "non-driving" when I had asked the question the first time. I said I most definitely HAD. And then she said why is this happening so late? If we need to reschedule you..." At which point I interrupted and said that,
#1. the written instructions had only mandated that I have someone accompany me, and
#2. Reschedling was not the issue here, because if they could not allow me to drive home in the company of my husband, I would NEVER be able to have the procedure done, because I have not a single blood relative in the state of Maryland. (There was simply no one I would be able to find to spend driving me an hour each way, and spend 3 hours at the hospital waiting for me to be ready to come home.)

So she finally caved and gave me permission to bring my "non-driving husband." What a pain, because I had to bring him along, pushing him in his transfer wheelchair, together with his cane, medications, and a supply of Depends. I had to leave word with the person manning the waiting room desk that for the three hours I spent in the procedure and post-op, someone would need to push him to the restroom periodically.

It was the height of ridiculousness. But possibly it was better than leaving him alone unattended for 5 hours. I was actually assuring HIS safety rather than him assuring mine.
-"If I can’t drain a swamp, I’ll go pull some weeds." - Charles Williams
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Jun 8, 2024 3:51 PM CST
Name: Evelyn
Sierra foothills, Northern CA (Zone 8a)
Garden Procrastinator Irises Hummingbirder Region: Ukraine Bee Lover Butterflies
Plant and/or Seed Trader Region: California Cat Lover Deer Bulbs Foliage Fan
Daisy ~ I am so sorry that you have to endure all of this. Just the procedure alone is more than enough stress. Sticking tongue out
"Luck favors the prepared mind." - Thomas Jefferson
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Jun 8, 2024 4:52 PM CST
Name: Marilyn, aka "Poly"
South San Francisco Bay Area (Zone 9b)
"The mountains are calling..."
Region: California Daylilies Irises Vegetable Grower Moon Gardener Dog Lover
Bookworm Garden Photography Birds Pollen collector Garden Procrastinator Celebrating Gardening: 2015
Ohmigosh, Daisy, how awful. Group hug
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Jun 8, 2024 7:20 PM CST
Name: Daisy
close to Baltimore, MD (Zone 7a)
Amaryllis Plant and/or Seed Trader Region: Maryland Peonies Organic Gardener Irises
Herbs Hellebores Growing under artificial light Container Gardener Cat Lover Garden Photography
Yes, it was all a bit stressful, combined with driving while following printed out driving instructions to and from the downtown location, finding the proper parking garage, on top of all my stress about the procedure itself. I really don't know how I managed. It is such a relief to be finally home and relaxing ... with my sore neck.
-"If I can’t drain a swamp, I’ll go pull some weeds." - Charles Williams
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Jun 8, 2024 7:33 PM CST
Name: Diana
Southeast Missouri (Zone 6a)
Cat Lover Vegetable Grower Enjoys or suffers hot summers Plant Lover: Loves 'em all! Region: Missouri Irises
Canning and food preservation Hibiscus Dog Lover Daylilies Enjoys or suffers cold winters
Daisy said,
"But possibly it was better than leaving him alone unattended for 5 hours. I was actually assuring HIS safety rather than him assuring mine."
I know that feeling. It's better for me now, but a year ago, leaving DH alone 5 hours was a bad idea.

I'm glad you managed to get through it all despite high stress and no help. Group hug
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Jun 8, 2024 8:47 PM CST
Name: Derylin
Louisville ,Kentucky (Zone 6b)
Amaryllis Vegetable Grower Plant Lover: Loves 'em all! Peonies Irises Houseplants
Hibiscus Herbs Dog Lover Daylilies Cat Lover Region: Kentucky
I am so sorry that you had to go through all of that,Daisy.I am glad you were able to drive home, and you both made it home safely.
It is hard to find someone to take us and bring us home if you can't drive yourself home , and your husband is no longer living or infirm.Even if kids live close ,it is often hard for them to get off work at the time we need them.
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Jun 8, 2024 10:08 PM CST
Name: Daisy
close to Baltimore, MD (Zone 7a)
Amaryllis Plant and/or Seed Trader Region: Maryland Peonies Organic Gardener Irises
Herbs Hellebores Growing under artificial light Container Gardener Cat Lover Garden Photography
And in our case, our only progeny lives far away in Ohio.
-"If I can’t drain a swamp, I’ll go pull some weeds." - Charles Williams
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Jun 9, 2024 3:47 AM CST
Name: Tom
Southern Wisconsin (Zone 5b)
Butterflies Vegetable Grower Keeper of Poultry Irises Keeps Horses Dog Lover
Daylilies Cat Lover Region: Wisconsin Celebrating Gardening: 2015
Are there any facilities for adult day care in your area? Maybe you could find a visiting nurse to relieve you of some of the workload. I know they are scarce though, but maybe you could find a retired nurse who would be willing to work periodically to give you some support.
Politicians are like diapers, they need to be changed often, and for the same reason.
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Jun 9, 2024 4:09 AM CST
Name: Lilli
Lundby, Denmark, EU
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I agree Just a couple of hours here and there to let you have a bit of you-time to do stuff that needs doing and maybe get a breather and a chance to look after your own health - also this is probably not your last important health appointment. Group hug
Of course I talk to myself; sometimes I need expert advice!
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Jun 9, 2024 6:58 AM CST
Name: Daisy
close to Baltimore, MD (Zone 7a)
Amaryllis Plant and/or Seed Trader Region: Maryland Peonies Organic Gardener Irises
Herbs Hellebores Growing under artificial light Container Gardener Cat Lover Garden Photography
Yes, I need to do that. Its hard to know, though if you are getting someone good. The daytime nurse my father hired for himself turned out to be into identity theft. What a nightmare that turned out to be!
-"If I can’t drain a swamp, I’ll go pull some weeds." - Charles Williams
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Jun 9, 2024 5:51 PM CST
Name: Robin
Melbourne, Australia (Zone 10b)
Region: Australia Garden Photography Cat Lover Irises Seed Starter
Group hug Daisy. I wish you a speedy recovery
Group hug Marilyn.
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Jun 15, 2024 3:47 PM CST
Name: Marilyn, aka "Poly"
South San Francisco Bay Area (Zone 9b)
"The mountains are calling..."
Region: California Daylilies Irises Vegetable Grower Moon Gardener Dog Lover
Bookworm Garden Photography Birds Pollen collector Garden Procrastinator Celebrating Gardening: 2015
So today is 9 weeks post-op, and I'm not going to say much more on that score. (Other than these these extra exercises are killing me... Yesterday I actually fell asleep while weight lifting! The 1 lb weight bounced off my knee (which woke me up), and fortunately missed my bare foot as it crashed onto the floor. (I wear flip flops in the house.) Needless to say, I went down for a nap shortly thereafter. DH let me sleep thru dinner, and I briefly woke up at 1 am. (Bathroom, Tylenol, and back to sleep until 8-ish this morning.))

Today I *WILL* get those mum cuttings potted up. I pretty much have to (now that I have my pots), because 2 weeks ago, when I discovered that the local club did NOT have 'Heather James' at their sale, I contacted King's Mums. (They now want you to apply for a customer ID code Blinking , so I figured that I'd better get in line for next winter, and applied, as I hadn't bought from them for some years.)

To my great surprise, they said that they still had mum cuttings, ready to ship in 3 weeks, and sent me a list. The coveted 'Heather James' was on the list, so I ordered 2 cuttings of that. The downside Glare of ordering from King's Mums, though, is that you *must* buy 10 cuttings... so I figured out others to add. I just paid the invoice, so I expect the 10 cuttings (2 'Heather James' and 8 others) to be incoming in a week or two.

Plant lust.... A terrible affliction. *Blush*

(Don't ask me *where* I'm going to put all of these! D'Oh! )

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Jun 15, 2024 5:55 PM CST
Name: Amanda
KC metro area, Missouri (Zone 6a)
Bookworm Cat Lover Dog Lover Region: Missouri Native Plants and Wildflowers Roses
Region: United States of America Zinnias Million Pollinator Garden Challenge
I'll just scooch you over this way a bit and you this way a bit and let's see...yep that'll work!! Whistling Hilarious!
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Jun 15, 2024 10:00 PM CST
Name: Marilyn, aka "Poly"
South San Francisco Bay Area (Zone 9b)
"The mountains are calling..."
Region: California Daylilies Irises Vegetable Grower Moon Gardener Dog Lover
Bookworm Garden Photography Birds Pollen collector Garden Procrastinator Celebrating Gardening: 2015
Rolling on the floor laughing

Sadly, I did NOT get those mum cuttings potted up today. I got off on a tangent doing a bit of garden writing (I have a blog which I want to resurrect, but I also have to go through some software issues there), then I had to make a salad for dinner, after which I had to do more exercises (I STILL haven't done all that I'm supposed to do today), and now DH wants *us* to watch a movie or something.

Tomorrow is Father's Day (Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there!), so I'll have to get up before DH to wrap his presents (two cookbooks, in addition to the chocolate caramels he wanted), and then he wants me to game with him. D'Oh! So we'll see if I can get those cuttings done SOMEHOW, SOMETIME tomorrow. Crossing Fingers!
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Jun 16, 2024 11:37 AM CST
Name: Marilyn, aka "Poly"
South San Francisco Bay Area (Zone 9b)
"The mountains are calling..."
Region: California Daylilies Irises Vegetable Grower Moon Gardener Dog Lover
Bookworm Garden Photography Birds Pollen collector Garden Procrastinator Celebrating Gardening: 2015
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

Yes, presents wrapped AND the 5 mum cuttings potted up before DH got up! Hurray!

I expect that he'll want to spend the afternoon gaming, and then tonight he will want me to watch Dune Part 2 with him. (Never mind that I haven't even watched Part 1 (of this second film adaptation), because the original film adaptation of this book utterly turned me off. (The original novel itself is an excellent award winning SF classic, though I was never able to get into the follow-on novels.))
Evaluating an iris seedling, hopefully for rebloom
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Jun 16, 2024 2:17 PM CST
Name: Daisy
close to Baltimore, MD (Zone 7a)
Amaryllis Plant and/or Seed Trader Region: Maryland Peonies Organic Gardener Irises
Herbs Hellebores Growing under artificial light Container Gardener Cat Lover Garden Photography
Agreed. The first Dune movie was simply awful. I guess I should watch the remakes.
-"If I can’t drain a swamp, I’ll go pull some weeds." - Charles Williams
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Jun 16, 2024 4:30 PM CST
Los Altos, CA (Zone 9b)
Irises Region: Ukraine
What is your blog about, Marilyn?
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Jun 16, 2024 6:43 PM CST
Name: Lucy
Huron, OH
Charter ATP Member I was one of the first 300 contributors to the plant database! Keeps Horses Cat Lover Irises Region: Ohio
I've seen Dune part 1. Much better than the first movie. My son tells me part 2 is well worth the watch.

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