I've come to the same conclusions the rest of the comments have shared. I'm 72 and landscaping (as well as food gardening) can be exasperating at times. Fighting the bugs on myself and the plants as well, it's getting to me this year. The horrible Texas freeze killing off so much of what I had lovingly (and with hard work) planted the last five years was devastating enough. Then the yard man whacking off all my Iris leaves, baby rose bushes and some other bedding plants was the last straw for me. Now, plants must be freeze hardy to 0ยบ to be planted, as well as heat and drought tolerant and "carefree". Often those requirements preclude flowering plants. My yard trees are maturing and now shading 3/4 of my square footage this year anyway, so probably a good decision.
My approach from now on will be to stop fighting battles I just can't win. I think that's what they call gardening "smarter"? I don't vegetable garden at all except for 3-4 new grow bags I'm trialing here in the city on the back driveway. May cease that if it becomes "work" or unproductive. Will only garden at our rural place in the established raised beds I set up if the economy gets so bad I can't buy my veggies in a grocery store.
Case in point.....the owner before me planted Nandina 'Heavenly Bamboo' all over the side yard garden perimeter and I just can't battle the suckers coming up off roots everywhere in my central flowerbeds out there. So I'm just not fighting them anymore. I wanted to fill out a big bed with Vinca major to choke out the weeds there. Bought 92 tiny starts on sale at a bargain.....the big-leaf "major' veriety. So what happens? They shipped the 'minor'! Grrr. I planted it, not realizing which type it was, as the starts were in 1" plugs. But now I'm positive it's the Vinca minor. Grrrrrr. Ya just can't win sometimes.
Add to that disappointment the hundreds of Nandina suckers off roots are trying to take over that central bed anyway. I decided yesterday to just let the Nandina saplings have the entire bed. Then I'll just weed whack it down to ground-cover height (under 10") and give up. The saplings are very dense there on one end of the bed already.
It leafs out real fast when whacked off. I think the lime-green colored saplings look pretty nice against the darker green of the 2 taller specimens of it and the one Yaupon Holly in that bed. I'm just getting too old to fight nandina anymore. Five years of it and I'm done! Why on earth a Master Gardener would plant invasive nandina in such a confined garden is beyond me. Luckily, I have cemented the dirt path back there now to stop it, but it only does so to a certain degree. I am highly suspecious nandina roots are running underneath the cement as it poppin up where there was none before, clear across the driveway!
Same approach being adoipted as of this week out front. Tired of weeding the huge beds the former owner designed out front. Can't get the weeds up even with a hoe in our hard black dirt on this limestone plateau. So I'm filling out the bed edges ALL the way around with Giant Liriope (she planted some 15 of them but randomly in the bed edges). At least then, people driving by and I from my house viewing vantage, can't SEE the weeds as the Liriopes will block view to the interior of the beds. I'll weed whack them down where I feel it's safe to get the whacker in and not whack something I want to keep.
And that's IT! I feel I'm becoming a slave to my yard much like my Dad did, for years. He felt he couldn't take a vacation as he had some veggie or other due to make it's crop right when he wanted to leave..................and this went on YEAR ROUND! I refuse to be a slave to gardening. I love plants, but I don't want gardening to rule my life any longer. Henceforth the words nearly "care-free" will be my criteria in plant purchases. I leave the growing of beautiful, blooming flowers to those willing to give their lives to their gardens. So if I plant it, water it, and it grows, with only Mother Nature...............it's a keeper. If not, it dies. So be it! Most of my plants here are non-bloomers, like Liriope, Nandina HB, Nandina Firepower and full blown mature trees. Might as well resign myself to no blooms and "get a life', whatever time I have left on this earth.