my mom wants me to throw out my coffee plant because i have cats, (it wont grow beans) how do i convince her to not make me throw it out

Good question.
Do you live at Mom's house? or a home of your own?

At Mom's house, maybe just keep putting it off... either she does it or it never happens.

If you live at your own house.... Maybe threaten to revoke her visiting privileges?

What did you used to do when she demanded that you wash the dishes? Clean your room?

most of us just kinda tune Mom out.

Is the plant accessible to the cats? It is toxic to animals, so that's probably why she wants you to get rid of it.

Mom's rule as long as you live in the same house. If she has legitimate reasons, as Sandy posted above, there should be no question other than just clarifying the details or coming up with a reasonable solution to keep the cats from having any access to it. If there is no work around, perhaps adopt it out to someone else.
I would never 'tune' my Mom out, nor suggest someone else should, that's not respectful.

Sounds like your mom cares about the health of your cats and doesn't want to see them suffer. I'd get rid of the plant.

From: https://dailyxcoffee.blogspot....
"Unfortunately, the coffee plant contains saponins, toxins known to cause irritation of the skin of the cat or of its oral cavity and of the gastrointestinal tract if the toxin is eaten. Your cat may be exposed to these toxins or locally, if it rubs against the coffee tree, or by mouth, if it chews or eats a part of the tree. Symptoms include contact dermatitis (rash), vomiting, loss of appetite, depression, fatigue, general weakness and rapid heartbeat. Although coffee poisoning is a rare or life-threatening complication, it is still essential to take the cat to the vet for medical treatment as soon as possible."

I agree with what Sue & Vickie said. I too am a minor still living with my parents, and have never viewed "tuning" my parents out as being the proper way to deal with a command I view to be unfair or unjust. At the end of the day, you realize Mom and Dad are the ones providing for you and working to bring you up in the best way possible, and much respect should be shown to them just for those reasons alone, not to mention all the others.

My advice is this: if Mom told you to throw it out, obey her. Ask her and find out what plants she is ok with you having. There are so many other beautiful plants waiting for someone to take them home!

@Johannian I love your response. There are so many plants that are cat safe as well as leafy and beautiful.

Check the ASPCA Poison Control website when considering buying a plant. They have a database of plants, by scientific and common names I believe, with their toxic or nontoxic status for dogs, cats, and horses. It isn't exhaustive, I have run into several plants not entered, but it can really help put your Mom's mind at ease if you already know that the plant you want is nontoxic to cats.

we made a agreement that the plant must be on a corner shelf. so its solved

by the way im still living in my moms house, so i cant tell her not to visit.

Yay!

Oshic1273 said:we made a agreement that the plant must be on a corner shelf. so its solved

Cool! Glad that the plant is safe.
Re tune Mom out... That advice was honestly the result of watching some of the family relating on Dr. Phil, and identifying all too well.

Not everyone has a healthy relationship with their parents and... it honestly sounded (to me) like a possible case of setting healthy boundaries.

You never did tell us what Mom's reasoning was in threatening your plant.

@stone i said the reason, cats