This is one of my saddest regrets. WHY did I only buy just ONE?
Years ago I made a large purchase of unusual palm trees from Hawaii. I did a lot of research and selected ones that I thought would stay the smallest, but be the most interesting as to leaf structure and whatnot, they are mostly rainforest understory palms, that I could have in my greenhouse. I didn't pay particular attention to their reproductive habits.
One of those palms is Chamaedorea oblongata. I would encourage you to Google it, its a cool palm.
It is a solitary palm (does not clump) that gets a really, REALLY tall lovely thin trunk as it grows, having its beautiful fronds coming out at the very top. Mine is about 12 feet tall now.

But its dioecious. That means plants are either male, or female. They don't produce male and female flowers on different blooms on the same palm. So unless you have 2 of different sex, there is no hope of getting fertile seeds. This is why they plant so many Chamaedorea elegans (parlor palms) in the same pot. So you get different sexes and get fertile seeds.

Mine is blooming now. But its sterile. This is its lovely bloom coming out. But its destined to be lonely forever unless I can get s few more and at least one different sex. I'm going to ave to make a trip to South Florida someday, sigh, to find it a mate. LESSON: never just buy ONE

I've been told by one of my palm gurus this is a male palm. He needs a girlfriend. Anyone in Florida have any to trade?

No palms here to trade, but I did Google it, interesting article on DG

Yeah I am on a forum with the guy who wrote that LOL. BIG palm collector. I have always lusted after C. sullivaniorum and C. tuerckheimii, but both are way too rare and pricey for my pocket book.

I grow a lot of Chamies, have a lot of the smaller species in that article. I am always on the lookout for a new Chamie, or Calpytrocalyx!

Gina, Do you know Frank that runs Banana Patch in Tampa. He may be able to get a oblongata for you. I can send you his info if you like. I have purchased many palms from him over the years.

I do not! Does he ship?
I am hoping to go to the USF Botanical Garden sale this year, maybe I could go down there to his place on the same trip.

Gina, I will Treemail you his contact information. Frank is usually at the USF sales selling palms with the other CFPS members. I do not know if shipping is a option.

I'll call him, I really do want to go to that sale this year

Yes...at least two...preferably 3...as one will die. That's what has gotten me into the deep s**t I find myself in now. I'll check to see if we have a female CO.

OTOH.. I did buy 2 double coconut seeds...both sprouted and they too require a M & F...one is here..the other at my sisters 20 miles away.
I doubt I'll be around to see it flower..and takes years to set seed

@Waykoolplantz I have an Arenga hookeriana in bloom now too. I wonder if the seeds will be fertile? I will have to look it up. Doesn't much matter because this is a clumper but would be fun to raise some to start a new clump.
I was told my palm is male because the infruc is more staminate than a female one. I guess there is a way to sex palms LOL I will have to learn