If I were a gardener as you seem to be, I would eliminate all thought of "extreme" adjustments or amendments. In the nearer term, grow more things that tolerate your existing soil regime while you make the efforts to convert your soils to something more amenable to more plant types.
I would do some research, and reach out to local knowledge bases like your county Cooperative Extension Service office. You will not have been the only person to ever have encountered your soil type, and wished it were different in order to grow certain things. You live in The Garden State, after all.
Gloucester County Cooperative Extension Service has a website:
https://gloucester.njaes.rutge...
They have lots of information you can use, and you've already paid for it via your taxes. Get some tried and true mileage out of that.
I would expect that you should continue the path of incorporating diverse organic matter to your existing soil. Look to learn whether specific sources of organic matter will trend your pH higher or lower. Adding minerals to alter the soil pH is typically a much slower process, but will result in changes albeit over a longer time period.
Learn what the pH and alkalinity of your water is. It will be worse than disappointing to work hard to lower your soil pH, while providing moisture with high pH water. Consider a way to lower your watering pH with something like household vinegar to counteract that.
I am familiar (through the Holly Society of America) with an excellent company whose home is in your state: Espoma. They are the originators of Holly-tone and a variety of other soil amendments targeting specific results. You could also read up on their products, and see if they are appropriate for your goals.
Buying in bulk is likely to give you the best value per pound of whatever you are purchasing. Farm supply stores are typically good places to do this. Talk to them often, and determine when is the best time to buy for your area. That likely is NOT spring, but during the off-season. Depending on how much you need (how big the area is you are trying to alter) and how much you can afford, you should look to buy a pallet of bagged material at a time.
Good luck. Post often on the trends and results of your efforts.