I didn't know her but she has lots of Mexican and American friends. Also I want to keep up the tradition that people in Baja will often go to extreems to help each other. I've had desparately needed help more than once and have been helped by both Mexicans and Amerucans, I've alwways been grateful and given money - often in spite of protests -and in one case when I had no money I had some new T-shirts which I gave my helpers. Other times, American baked goods.
I need to finish with the worst part. I'll preface by saying that anyone who asks about driving in Baja is told, first and foremost -DON'T DRIVE AT NIGHT!! Most roads are barely two lanes, often with no shoulder. Big rigs are also traveling, taking up their full lane, sometimes more. And cows often are on the road at night to stay warm.
We traveled to where her belongings were (Funny, when she got in the passenger seat the first thing she did was say something aoubt the crack in my windshield. Did she think I didn't know it was there. Or maybethat we should find a glass place in the middle of nowhere and get it replaced - at my expense of course.) A friend of hers drove half an hour to help with the packing. She mentioned several times how wonderful it was of him to do this. When finally loaded it was getting to be late afternoon and we hadn't completed half the trip. She was futzing on her phone. I pointed out that it was late afternoon and we needed to get going. She snapped that she was arranging a motel for the night. Then, because she didn't like the traffic in the next twon she has us turn onto the new road - which is a four hour drive with no motels. I'm driving in the dark, more and more stressed out while she kept helpfully assuring that I had lost of room to the right - where there is no shoulder - and offered to drive, assuring me she is a good driver. I stayed to the left and lost my outside driver's mirror to big rigs. Better than going off the road into unknown territory - at night on a highway with no businesses or lights or any possiblehelp in sight. I kept driving often too far to the left -as she repeatedly reminded me - but making sure we stayed on the highway. While I was getting more and more stressed, staying on the road, avoiding big rigs, etc, she calmly asked if I wanted dinner. (We're nowhere near a restaurant of course - it's the middle of uninhabited desert.) At that point I blew and snapped that, no I didn't want dinner, I wanted to survive the drive. She was offended that I snapped at her.) After 3-5 hours of this drive we came to a town where the motel she had arrranged was. I was shot to hell and opted to sleep in my van where the packers had thankfully felt a sleeping space. In the morning I got myself together and started out of the parking lot to her room. She was waiting for me and said she was afraid I was abandoning her. I assured her that I would not do that. She offered a great motel shower but I just wanted to get on the road. Bought gas - she contributed about $25 which paid 1/4 of the cost of a new mirror and nothing towards several hundred dollars worth of gas. She did buy me a cup of coffee. After several more hours of driving on new-to-me narrow roads with no shoulders we made it to her house. A friend of hers came and helped unload her belongings. We hugged and parted amicably.
I made it to the home of my mechanic friend in Tecate and a friend of his was able to find a replacement mirror so I was once again OK to drive. When I got to La Mesa I found the license plates from her totaled car. Not knowing her address and anyway, what the hell I paid to mail them to the DMV along with her name. When I told her this she offered to reimburse me but I said forget it.
All the driving at night plus her back-seat driving exhausted me. It was a long recovery.
This has been a long rant but I will repeat - and emphasize that the first rule of riving in Mexico is -DON'T DRIVE AT NIGHT. I am still appalled that she directed me to take that route to avoid the traffic - and motels - of towns that were close on the other route (which is the one I always take when alone).
It should be obvious that we will not remain friends. I really hope she keeps all her complaints to herself - gossip kills and in many ways Baja is a small community. That's why I decided to vent here, knowing it will not become gossip fodder.
That's it. I feel better I guess . Mostly I want to be in a place where if someone else comes along and needs help which I am able to provide, I will continue to do so. I would hate to have the experience with her put me off of being willing to help when I can. I like helping. In spite of the occasional asshat.
P.S. I didn't proofread this. Pardon any mistakes.