Ken, back when I used to mark my crosses with paper tags with writing, I kept having the writing obliterated. Finally, I was up and out in the garden early one morning, and caught the culprit in the act - a snail chewing/scraping/whatever the writing off the tag!
I was shocked to see it, and thought that surely I must have been the only person in the world to experience this problem, so it is funny (not to you, I am sure) that you are having the same issue!
Iirc the solution that I came up with was to make my tag, then put a piece of Scotch tape over the writing. No more lost data. (I moved to color paper clips because I just generally dislike tags, but even when you combine paper clip colors, eventually you run out of clips or combinations, so for seedling crosses I have been using tags this year.)
Ditto on the carpenter bees as another hybridizing pest... there are some 500 species of carpenter bee
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/... ; I don't know if we have
Xylocopa californica https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/... or some other species here, but they are certainly pollen marauders! Here is a picture of one on 'Sears Tower' (clicky for a better view of the pollen thief):
It is interesting that they seem to go for the lighter colored (and yellow colored) daylilies and those in the sun, first. Today I had very few daylilies in bloom, but late morning there was still untouched pollen on the reddish 'Airdrie', which was in shade.
The first time you encounter these carpenter bees it can be a little scary (because they are so big and the black makes them look menacing) but I have found these giant bees to really be harmless - apart from stealing the pollen. I have read that in general that is the case, that they are not aggressive bees, unless you attack them or disturb their nest. While we do have some honeybees here, almost the only bees to visit the daylilies (in my garden) are the carpenter bees. The honeybees go after the lavenders and the crepe myrtles; it is unusual to see them on a daylily.
Finally, like some others here, sometimes the bees beat me to the pistil, but I am desperate enough to dab my own pollen onto the pistil anyway. That's a pretty rare occurrence, and I will add an extra "bee" paper clip to mark the cross. In general, though, by the end of the season I have enough seeds that I never get around to starting seeds from these mixed pods. I do suspect though that
sometimes we may get a bee contribution without having recognized it beforehand (all it takes is one miniscule grain?), or after we have dabbed our own pollen. One of my seedlings has given me some reason for suspicion...