Sylvain, I assume you are not an only child? If not, are the rest deceased, live far, far away, or estranged? Estrangement is sad...........I have a sister that by her choice, is estranged from the rest of us. I know Mom felt bad about it and said that she couldn't change her and wasn't going to worry about it any more, but we all know that it did bother her. She is being treated as an equal in the estate (which 2 of my siblings and I would very happily short-change her, but we know Mom would come back and haunt us, so we are abiding by her wishes). All she wants is Mom's money which she will blow in VERY short order.
The rest of us get along fine, thank you very much, tho one of the sisters living here is loathe to make decisions (which is why Mom did not pick her to be PR or Executrix). It has been 6 months, and this sis says that we really don't have to make a decision right away on what to do with the rest of her memorial money. "Let's just think about it a bit". Oy-vey. My youngest sis and I have been the decision makers, and both of us had Mom's POA for her health care. She did not want just one of us to have the total responsibility for that in the event that it would come to that. Her reasoning............I am oldest and am very good at decisions. Sis 2 is in France, and obviously not in a position to do that. Sis 3 is the one that "can't" make the decisions. Sis 4 is the estranged one and we all know what HER decision would be. Brother, most times, is so hard to get a hold of and pin down, Sis 5 can be a bit wishy-washy, and Sis 6 is like me...........make a decision and get on with it. (Mom's way of thinking too, actually). So Laurie and I have been pretty much the decision makers, and I always ask her before i do anything that needs some kind of feed-back, tho technically I really don't HAVE to.
Probably more than any of you wanted to know about my family dynamics. LOL
