Hi Whereami,
Thanks for answering my question about the false goatsbeard on the Plant ID forum.I happen to feel the same way you do about some wasps-digger wasps, paper wasps etc- live a peaceful co-existence as much as possible. Most people have bee and wasp paranoia and grab the spray immediately without even IDing. I grow a lot of bone set spotted bee balm and gotten very close to them to photograph and have never been stung. A nest is a little trickier. I think you're doing the right thing though. Here's a pic of the critter I think you're describing:
"My work is loving the world. Here the sunflowers, there the hummingbird — equal seekers of sweetness. Here the clam deep in the speckled sand. Are my boots old? Is my coat torn? Am I no longer young, and still not half-perfect? Let me keep my mind on what matters, which is my work which is mostly standing still and learning to be astonished." — Mary Oliver, from Messenger
