I haven't read the whole thread yet. I'm only 6 pages behind.
But I have given up on my Jimson Weed/Devil's Trumpet. I simply don't have enough sunny spaces for it. And enough space to winter it over. I have passed it on to friends who have sunny places to enjoy those big blooms.
Am about to give up on having fish in my ponds. The last attack by the raccoons eliminated all the fish on one pond makes me sad.
At least I can create a nice water garden??