Thanks all ya'll....things have been crazy. I *think* his "bed warmer" is more toxic then supportive, but there is nothing I can do about it and neither can his boys. I can only be here for them, Alex and sons, but NOT her...there is other stuff going on as well. I know I need to do for me, but this is night 3 without dinner...just can't bring myself to eat. This too shall pass one way or another. On hopefully an up side, I traded my Poppy in yesterday for a 2009 chevy malibu. BIG change for me, but at least now when I go to the PO I feel like I'll get home and with things the way they are with Alex that's important. Silver lining.....dogs can get breezes from the moon roof as well as the windows