James- oops sorry about the wife comment. I had a vague recollection of you mentioning a wife, but clearly have now revealed my stupidity and my background of wrong assumptions. My only excuse (not a very good one) is that this issue does not even register enough with me that I apparently easily mis-remember something like this. Please accept my very humble apologies.
I will make up a little list of book recommendations after you are moved. Or before if you are getting eager to plan. Also for the past few years in the Spring we have had a little local meet-up and plant swap, likely will do it again. Newbies with nothing to offer are welcomed, everyone always brings extra to share. If you are renting you might not be doing much gardening in the ground, but there are often houseplants too.