Nelumbo Shiroman is hardy in NJ
http://garden.org/thread/view_...
I bought it at Waterford Garden in Spring 2010, it came back in 2011, bloomed nicely this Summer and is now dormant.
http://garden.org/thread/view_...
Waterford Garden has some smaller varieties too.
I simply sank the pot last Fall to the bottom of the almost drained pond and let snow accumulate on top of it.
This year I will keep it in a large basin with water next to the pond, since I just repainted the whole inside of the pond one more time and will keep it dry until Spring so the paint can cure longer.