Lupus is serious alright. I also have a friend that has it. She goes to the local YMCA a lot to excersize and swim. She says that helps her a lot. There are different stages of the disease. My sister-in-law is around 35 years old also has Lupus and was diagnosed with it last year. At this point she has no symptoms. Take good care of yourself Teresa. I imagine tending to daylilies should be good therapy, right???