Daniel, thanks for giving me your two cents about the trading. What you said makes sense, though this situation sort of reminds me of employers who won't hire people unless they have experience, but no one is willing to hire them so that they can get experience! I had at one point considered putting on a list, but I wasn't even sure I could figure out how to do it. I have made a few trades, because I realized that it's so much cheaper for both parties--they're each getting something they want, and only have to pay for the postage. I don't do a lot of trading though, because I find that dividing daylilies is not that easy. The many articles I've read about that say that you should take out the whole clump. Are you kidding me?? I have large clumps that are VERY heavy, and I only want 2 or3 fans. So, I usually try to trade some of my smaller clumps, or ones where a few fans have come up away from the large clump.
I have considered telling someone that if I initiate the trade, I'm willing to send out their plant(s) first, and then they can send out mine if they are happy with what I've sent. That might work, but of course there's never a guarantee that I wouldn't get stung.