@Kaktus You have correctly identified the boy parts (the anthers) but the other arrow is pointing at broken/already faded and broken off boy parts. I have reproduced your picture here. As you surmised, the boy parts are the whitish globs, not quite ready. Should look grainy when ready. The girl parts in your picture (the stigma) is coming right out of the center and leaning down to the "seven o:clock" position. It has three appendages (the stigmatic surfaces) and and below that a swollen area, the ovary.
This pic, taken from the site that I tagged before (enjoysucculents.com) shows the stigma leaning to the right at between the two and the three o:clock position.
I hope this helps and that your pollination is successful. That is a very cool plant!
