The house is looking better, Lisa. Can't wait to see the yard (?) next year. You're not the only one in the world to fail divorce. I know a couple who have been divorced for decades, and they still live close to each other, and keep the kids close, in spite of moving half way across the country. Can't live together, but can't let go.
Wish I had found this site before things went so bad for you, but I have followed your adventures, and wish you all the best!