Okay now, Natalie...
You don't like the yellows or oranges. You don't like the reds. You don't like chocolates.
You love whites and pinks.
I'm seeing a color wheel thing going on here
I'm wondering if you shouldn't go a little the opposite of the grease monkey dark color just for the contradiction of it all. I think it would be cool to try for a white daylily with a chocolate edge to name after your dad. Greasy black on the outside, but pure and clean on the inside.