Name: Anne Summerville, SC (Zone 8a) Only dead fish go with the flow!
DE would work but you are spot on about it killing the Lady Bugs as well .. pretty much anything organic or not that will kill the beetles will kill the Lady Bugs too .. about your only option is to hand pick them off.
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