Pam, ya just gotta tell your family you're coming to their house for the holidays. That way they do the cooking, cleaning and stressing. Sometimes I cook at their house, but they still do all the prep, shopping, cleaning and planning . . . no stress.
Kidding aside, we have a 'rotation' going on whereby one year we go there (Salt Lake City, which I hate because it's cold and I have to leave warm Florida), the next year they come here (that's my year to stress . . . and cook etc. ) and the third year we all stay home and send gifts and do a lot of Skype-ing.
Caladium 'Gingerland' is my favorite, (more prize bulbs from Bill) Philo pastazanum is going crazy making huge leaves.