I started this reply, left off for a night, and finished. So the last I read and could respond to was Rick/Corey's. I'll respond to y'all others in a bit. Funeral on the 19th, leaving tomm. a.m. and won't be back until the 21st.
Why a funeral of a cremated loved one so close to Xmas? Because my family is at once very close, so all wanted to be there, and very odd. One cousin is off to Columbia for some charitable work right after Xmas (her sister did a 3 YEAR stint in Outer Mongolia <the part that is it's own country and not ChiComm> - dead serious, not a euphemism for a far off place) and another cousin is off to Munich in early January to give a seminar in her particular specialty of psychology (she's an expert in her niche - I'm dying to tell y'all what - even though it's not too exciting - but then you'd be able to figure out who she is pretty easily - doubt y'all cared, anyway). So it had to be done on the 19th.
But, to quote a great statesman and philosopher - 'I'll be back.' <with a heavy Austrian accent>
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