Hi!
OK... I haven't been on it lately, but The African Violet / Gesnariad forum over at DG has had a have/want list thread for years, and that seemed to work out OK... 1 post per person, edit every so often according to what leaves/plantlets you have available, and actual trades were mostly arranged via Dmail, although I think we did some trading discussion threads in addition to a few organized group swaps.
Mostly, I didn't want to be missing some trading thread that was already going!