Jelinda you have been very busy in the last 3 years. Sounds like you are doing the same way we did. The first 3 years were spent on the house, then slowly doing things in the yard. First thing was raised beds so we could grow vegetables. I found for me the best thing I could do was to just enjoy each step as it was accomplished, and not worry about how fast it was happening.
And how wonderful that your husband helps you and watches out for you. He sounds like a wise and caring husband.
Sure hope you get to feeling better soon.
