This may take a while.
I am very seriously depressed.
The other day I had a long talk with my neighbor Dan. over the ten years or so she and her husband have lived here we have become pretty good friends. It was a great talk. I told her about dealing with a client who had ignored a promise she had made to me about handling a situation with her son (who was in foster care) and how, after doing that which she had promised not to do, looked at me with tears in her eyes and said "what could I do." I replied, "You could have done what you promised to do in the first place to avoid having this happen. I went to great effort to get you to agree to how you would do this. So if you want to know what you could have done, it's simple: You could have done what you promised to do." She had been pulling stuff like this on people for years and her children were paying the price. She never forgave me but went on to fool some others and continue to mess up her children. That's a story I told.
In the course of the conversation I mentioned I had not heard from Diana, a woman we both know. Dana knows I really like Dianna and I was concerned about not hearing from her. Dana offered to say something to her. I said, emphatically, no, please don't. I just wondered if you knew anything (like, maybe if Diana was sick or something).
Next day I got an email from Diana saying sorry I haven't been in touch but I just don't want to be friends with you. I lost it, started crying and forwarded the email to Dan with a note saying that I couldn't stop crying. Dana emailed back some people want to be friends, others don't, it's not a big deal. She left the next day to visit relatives in Az. for a week.
I had a miserable week, to put it mildly. I lost two people who were important to me and there is no way to get either of them back. So I'm grieving. Big time. An additional problem is that we are in a small town with a limited community of Americans. Dana and Diana are both much more sociable than I am so I've no idea what other repurcussions there will be.
Dana got back Sat. came over Sunday. I was in bed sick to my stomach so she left. I saw her later; she was going to town and asked if i needed anything. I said no. She could see I am miserable but said nothing. Just as well. Ther'es really nothing to say. The damage is done. The bell cannot be unrung and I will go on and, as they say, keep on keeping on.
I have told this at some length because I have a very strong feeling (response?) that Dana contacting Diana was her version of the client she did what she had promised not to do.
Sometimes I feel like I am surrounded by monsters. I am careful about who I get close to, who I confide in.
What I am doing is this: I've had individual contacts with a couple of friends here. I sent an email to my friend of forty-some years, Kramer, in San Francisco telling him I was very depressed but not suicidal We exchanged a couple of silly lines. I will not hibernate, tempting though it is to do so.
But I am clinically depressed. It has happened before and I always survive. But its' hard. I may last for months. I had a three -month depression over a broken window once. It can happen that easily and last that long.
So in addition to being hurt and depressed I am damn angry.
I needed to get this all out. The anger has really surfaced.
Not looking for advice. Just needed witnesses.
I will survive and even prevail. But right now it hurts.