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A fair chance they also have a "Joey-Boy" in some form.

MISSINGROSIE said:A fair chance they also have a "Joey-Boy" in some form.

Oh Rosie, you're so BAD!!

My mom's still with us - 97 years old and in a Care home in another city. She'd retired for a couple of years (early) before my dad passed, so they had a couple of years together. They were 17 years apart in ages, so it was not unexpected, although he was only 82 when he passed - still too young.

Tell me about the care home. is that like our nursing home? or do you mean a senior residential home where the "guests" ( independent ) have their own bed, galley kitchen and bath?

Does Canada help pay for either?

Are these nice places to live ? Some nursing homes here are not nice and others are super.
Usually the assets of the guest are spent down and then the nursing home will accept SS check plus Medicaid underwrites. This is usually with the "nursing " home -- -a residential facility where the guests need caregiver help to eat, bathe, etc. Nurses give medications.

My mom lived independently....paid her own bills....had a group bus take her to doctor and shopping at grocery store once a week. Card games..a communal parlor ( although it was a multi-story apartment building. There was a pool. Crafts.. She did not participate. She said the people were too old. She said the women were all after the three men " with a heartbeat" on her floor. There was a " beauty" shop..she would not go there either. As dementia took over..she went (kicking) to a hell hole nursing home..we removed her from there ( smelled..served gruel...assistants questionable..stole.. medications all messed up, all her clothes disappeared ) to one that was very clean..well run..food looked like food. Mom was miserable in both ( all three really) Once we joined mom in the "dining room" ..she was wheel chair bound because she wandered. A bell would go off if she stood up..she hated it. This clearly demented woman kept yelling for ( we assumed ) her husband..." Harry..Harry..Harry" My mom was getting more and more worked up...finally ( with an EVIL look in her eye) she yelled.." AH, SHADDUP!! HARRY IS DEAD AND IF YOU DON'T KEEP QUIET ...YOU WILL BE TOO! " we broght her a birthday cake once and she INSISTED we not give any to thst same sweet woman. We did of course and mom refused to speak with us. She was something else.

Rosie, I just felt like I was hit with a bolt of lightning. I thought I was the only one. Im in happy shock. This is a huge huge issue. My Mother will do nothing, and participate in nothing, because she says she hates hanging around with old people.She wont even volunteer at the hospital, because they are all old. Ugh. She is 88, looks 65, but she is 88, if you get my point. My frustration is out of control at times over this issue. She can do what she wants to do or not do, but dont tell me how miserable you are. I am so glad I like to garden, Ive almost forced myself to learn lots of crafts, love them, and especially love getting all the 'stuff' Im gunna make sure, Ive got something to do, except whip myself up into freenzys. Well, OK, Im pretty good at that, but I want to like myself and spending time with myself. Mother was a big mover and shaker in town, still really. She is still on the board at the hospital, but what good does that do you on a long weekend. Im trying my best....I owe it to here.

yup. Same thing. I fretted and fretted and frettted and told myself I wasn't goimg to fret over what she could fix. It bothered me that she was lonely.

MISSINGROSIE said:yup. Same thing. I fretted and fretted and frettted and told myself I wasn't goimg to fret over what she could fix. It bothered me that she was lonely.

Rosie, your mom must have been my mom's sister! She was a full blooded Italian Catholic and a wonderful mom. She died at 93 after having lived a short time in an assisted living place, and a short time in an Adult Group home. She was a handful, and I felt very sorry for the caregivers. She cared for my dad for 10 years while he had dementia, and then still kept her wits til the end. Madonna Mia!

I just got two scam messages on my answering machine in the last hour saying I am being taken to court by the tax department and to ring a certain number urgently and that ignoring the message would have dire consequences for me.

The sad thing is they catch some old people.

Gee, even in Australia.

Pam and Rosie ...

OK ... I gotta fess up ... there is no way, I could have written the same kind of thing about my birth-mother. Nope. That would have been just a bit too hard of a challenge to meet.

Pam, you can only do what you can do one day at a time.

The care home my mom's in loves her and treats her like a jewel. Her teeth don't fit anymore (she's always been tiny, but lost weight - not surprising at 97), so she has soft food only. My family all lives in the same city and visit her often with an eagle eye on whatever happens. My mom is obviously happy there, and that's what really matters.
When she went from an independent living situation to the hospital, she went downhill very much, and they didn't have 24 hr nursing/dr care there, so she had to go to a full-care home. My brother & sister look after paying all the bills, Mom isn't capable of it anymore. Says she's ready to go, but I don't think it's time yet - she has the majority of her faculties, but every once in a while she she's just woken up she "sees" people who are gone, and she enjoys chatting with them or hearing them talk to her. Again, not surprising at her age.
I wish I lived in the same city, so I could visit her. Ah well, when someone calls me and puts the phone to her ear, she talks to me and is coherent. She knows who everyone is, and is happy - that's a blessing.

Well...if she has her wits...why do you think that she ISN'T seeing people?
Like a child..she maybe wide open to visits!

I am glad she is doing so well. Old age is a cruel thing to have happen after all that experience at living!! Just when we get so smart and so capable and so well practiced!! !

My brother was the only one nearby..my daughter about 3 hours on other side of the mountains. She visited when she could but my mother's son ..my older REAL pain in the rear brother .he visited every day..bringing lasagna, cheesecake, manicotti, struffoli, all sorts of goodies ( his stuffed mushrooms are to DIE for) for the staff...all treats made in his spotless kitchen. When mom passed ALL the staff wept..I got a zillion mass cards... ( she cussed up a blue streak at them..She tortured them....I feel sure they wept for the cheesecake..)

@plantmanager - mom was born in 1920.. She died Jan of 2013... It is too early to do the math..but I think thatnis 93 also!!

Glen, we get those too. Yes, its too bad people fall for that, but they do.

Rosie, your math is correct.

Well, my grump seems kind of minor now. That's good, it's always good to get outside ourselves and see how mundane some of our complaints really are.

I'm grumpy because the ants have returned to the guest bedroom ceiling. I really, really hate these little red ants because they are hard to kill and they bite and it itches worse than a mosquito bite. That room has an 18' ceiling and the ants are in the lights and fan in the center of the room so my A frame ladders will not reach. I got the scaffolding delivered and set up today, we have to get scaffolding to even change the light bulbs. The exterminator is here now and hopefully he will remove all the lights and put the whatever poison up in there in sufficient quantities that it kills the whole nest. It turns out the guy is afraid of heights, he didn't say that but it is pretty obvious. So, my guy is there helping and he brought another guy as well to climb the scaffolding. It's a huge PITA for some ants. The way we find out they are up there is that they start pushing the dead ants out and they land on the bed and the floor underneath. Weird and creepy, all ants are creepy to me but this type that live in the electrical pipes are really creepy. That bedroom is an addon when we remodeled so it is made of concrete block not stone. Still, there are wiring channels throughout and that is where they set up their nests. Just to add to their creepiness, they also eat the insulation off the electrical wires. Have I mentioned how much I hate ants? I can't even be in that room knowing they are up there alive, I have to come back downstairs.

Jonna
I tried EVERYTHING to get rid of ants..tiny tiny TINY black ones. The suggestion I got from my research was that the nest must be poisoned. The sprays and traps were not working. Someone here -- Margaret I think -- not sure ( I got a bunch of good recommendations ) ( I bought them all but never got to use all because after a few days ....gone! Nest dead.). The nest was located out in the woods somewhere and the ants would go back and forth from point of house entry.

Anyway..3-5 drops in three diffeent places where I saw the ants did it. I dealt with these crazy things for several years running in the spring.. To think a few drops......

I can dig it up and get you the name for future reference since you have folks working on it. The ants carry the poison to the nest and feed all the others. If you can't get it..I will send you some if it is allowed to go out of the country. Less than a week for results.

The exterminator just left and he says that all the ants they saw up in the ceiling were dead. I wanted to know then who or what was pushing dead ant bodies out. He said the fan. Well, maybe. I'm not convinced. However, he put 3 kinds of poison up in there in the conduit channel and he is coming back on Monday to look at it again. I'm keeping the scaffolding until then as I might as well use it to change out all the bulbs to LED and get the fixtures cleaned. He said one of the fixtures was full of dead ants. I asked if he had emptied it and no. He said it needed to be cleaned and the implication was that I should get one of the maids to do that, I mean come on Men Clean? Heh! I need to keep my mouth under control at times like that, it doesn't help to get snarky but I really, really wanted to.

Not everything about a high ceiling is a positive. There's no way to reach the ceiling in the center of the room with a ladder leaning against one of the walls, thus the scaffolding. Luckily my across the street neighbor has the same problem and he bought some scaffolding, I rent it from him.

Rosie, it was probably Terro ant killer. It doesn't work on those blasted red grease ants, tho. Ask me how I know this. LOL Terro is sweet, and works for the sweet-eating ants.

Tes! Terro!